October 17, 2008

  • this is coming from reading other ppl's entries, especially about relationships.

    people ARE remaining single longer and longer these days.  time does fly doesn't it.  well of course this is a stupid statement being that I have quite a few friends and peers my own age (33+) who are still single.  Just that this fact was reinforced when when I realized that a few (newer) friends within my circles are approaching 28 this yr - both guys and girls.  (Newer meaning SINCE I began my "second' life in late 2002 at age 28).  and that actually most of the ppl whom I met back then in their early 20's are actually getting to that age within 1-2 years!  and many of them have never even been in what one would even consider a long-term relationship.  damns...

    times have definitely changed.  then again life is just more complex these days.  Theres definitely too many options in terms of self-discovery, more pursuits, more things to get done in ur own life before one can even contribute to a relationship or take the time out to really get to know someone. its work and who has the time to do work right now!  And that is the right attitude to take. I totally respect it also.  and then when the time is right, you will find someone, or someone will *find* you. On some level I even wish I had that type of attitude within my personality, but no, I was always really boycrazy and relationship-minded since I was 14, so that has prevailed throughout life -- and it has brought extremes from utmost joy to heartcrushing devastation in bad times where it has totally usurped my life and lifestyle at that time.  I hadnt even realized in all that serial dating craziness that I had not BEEN ready for any sort of real SOLID commitment till 2-3 yrs ago!!! My 9.5 yr relationship, although it was great, there were MANY things NOT working within the relationship. SO make sure you are absolutely ready because it can totally mislead you down a path you may not be ready for.

    i can totally admit that many changes in lifestyle and personality during my life had to do with a new relationship OR changes in a relationship I have been in.  yeah NOT too great normally to have these supreme highs and lows.  i have definitely LOVED, LOST, LEARNED, then LOVED again, up to where i am today. despite the crazy times, i don't regret anything. 

    i guess we all have our own unique paths & I do believe tho that there is someone out there for everyone.