May 30, 2008

  • random musings...

     


    - In a city like New York, there are so many ways to meet people (through get-togethers, social gatherings, gathering by interest/activities, even meetups in public gathering areas etc) tis a wonder that many are still single (of course not including the ones who are single by choice).  it is a GREAT city to be single, seriously.   but even more rewarding when you have the right one with you


    - For most ppl I think there comes an age and time when you just have to branch out in the world, and extend the circle of influence/people you hang around with.  Or to explore the possibility of just dating different types of people.  Or doing different things than the usual.  Or to think about dating/relationships etc.  You hang out with the same group of ppl all the time, nothing new will ever happen.  Of course if everyone is all ok with the "incestuous" thang, then never mind


    - On a related note, if you haven't dated for a loooong time and now you're like mid/late 20's...well what's the hold-up?  lolz.  Don't let ur game go stale.  It happens ALL the time.


    - Everyone is capable of frequently meeting /dating new ppl if they so choose.  The one thing that stops this natural sociable process is yourself and your (imagined) inhibitions or walls that are put up from the past.  Don't get too hung up on old infatuations; you may be imagining things that aren't there now.  And then you fail to give someone new a chance to get to know you in that way.  People can tell when there is baggage even if no words are exchanged.  We can just tell.


    - Socializing takes practice.  Get yourself OUT there!  Be a bit too outta the loop the more apprehensive one gets.  I've never regretted any spontaneous hello or conversation I have struck up with people.  Hell, either they like me or they don't..and who knows, maybe I'll end up *not* wanting to continue talking to them either, ha.